The promise of quick weight loss can be so seductive….It can fill you with excitement and hope and have you thinking, “This is the one that’s going to change my life!”. Let’s face it; we have all fallen for a quick fix diet at some stage in our lives. Some of us maybe more than others….

Many smart women are locked into an unwinnable weight game, and feel stuck in the addictive cycle as their self-worth is shredded with every diet failure as sooner, or later, they always return to their old habits.

So before you hop on to the latest fad diet, I encourage you to slow down, think carefully and read this post.

Here is what I’ve learned from my own experience and working with my clients on their struggle with weight loss.

Sustainable weight loss comes down to understanding how your mind and your emotions work.

And, if you’re anything like my clients, then what you really want is more energy, better sleep and to eat in a way that feels good and gives you laser focus.

In order to achieve this, you need to know the 5 essential truths of weight loss, and exactly HOW you can apply to end your struggles with weight loss for GOOD!

#1 Make it a lifetime commitment 

“It’s not a short term diet. Its a long term lifestyle change”

Eating healthfully and eating to lose weight is not the same thing. There is a different mindset and motivation behind each. 

People fail at diets and permanent weight loss primarily because their goal is skewed—losing weight versus being healthy.

 “Eating healthy tends to naturally lead to weight loss”

I have learned, from my experience and that with my clients, to look at weight loss with a different focus:

A more realistic and sustainable goal is a focus on long term results of feeling healthy, energetic and calm not the latest fad diet that promises losing 10kg in the next 21 days. 

  • Its about being more consistent then you were yesterday
  • Building healthy habits you can maintain in the long term
  • Its about balance and sustainability with out deprivation, not to sacrifice everything to get the fastest weight loss

“Change does not take time-it takes commitment” Thomas Crum

What you can do: 

  • Focus on accepting that a healthy weight that comes naturally will take longer to achieve but is also easier to maintain
  • Start slowly and try to avoid setting crazy restrictive plans or making too many food rules for your-self.
  • Focus on building momentum for healthy living. 

#2 Create Your Action Plan

“A goal is just a goal with out a plan”

Why have an action plan?

The whole purpose of an action plan is to clarify what resources you will require to reach your goal; and create a timeline for when you will need to complete specific tasks.

How to create an action plan 

 1.Identify focus area for change

 2.List everything you need to do to achieve your goal

  • What will you need to do daily/weekly?     
  • How much are you I going to do and how often will you do it?
  • When are you going to do it?

3.Plan your week ahead

  • Schedule enough time for the week for all areas of your life – work, family, AND yourself
  • Schedule in time in your daily planner to action your goal
  • Schedule your best day and time for planning
  • Create a daily plan from your weekly plan

4.Identify obstacles

Identify things and situations that trip you up- what might get in your way? 

  • Brain storm solutions to the above (think of previous success)
  • Tweak your plan if necessary

5.Assesss your progress on a regular basis and by asking the following:

  • What has been working well?
  • What hasn’t gone so well?
  • How can you do things differently? 

Recognise your progress and celebrate small wins

  • List 3 things that went well each day

 #3 Disarm your inner critic

We all have that little voice that usually shows up when we attempt something new or different. 

Your inner critic can show up in different ways and can reappear with a different focus each time.

It shows up as a negative internal narration on who you are and how you behave

Some examples can include:

  • “You’re hopeless.” 
  • “You will never get this right, look at your failed attempts.” 
  • “You’re fat.” 
  • “There is definitely something wrong with you.” 


Self-criticism sabotages weight loss attempts

“The cause of the inner critic is often rooted deeper and independent of a your body size or eating habits. “

I can tell you from my experience, that losing weight will not cure your self-criticism (your inner critic) and you can’t criticize yourself into losing weight.

Dieting because you don’t like your self will feel like punishment and deprivation and make you want to eat more.

“Have you ever noticed that as soon as you decide to go on a diet, all you want to do is eat chocolate?”

What you can do:

 You can disarm your inner critic by following: The 3 C’s Model–Catch It, Check it, Change it


  • Catch the inner critical voice.
  • Learn to be aware of what you are thinking and when you have a negative thought.
  • Remember that this is not a reflection of your reality but just a thought you are presently having

Be rational. Is it real?

  • This is your opportunity to dispute your inner critic by coming up with a more compassionate and realistic evaluation of yourself.


  • Substitute the negative thought with something else that is positive.
  • Write down a more realistic evaluation of your self as “I” statements
  • So in response to a thought like, “You are so stupid,” you could write, “I may struggle at times, but I am smart and competent in many other ways.”

#4 Start with the focus on consistency before outcome

It’s easy to spend all of your time focused on the outcome and rapid changes, and forget that it’s the daily habits & routines you do consistently that lead to long–term success.


“Consistency is the most valuable skill you can learn “

  • The fact is that the most accomplished people are simply more consistent than everyone else. Yes, it’s that simple!
  • Doing things consistently leads to habit formation and becomes second nature after a while.

“Consistency has nothing to do with willpower or motivation”

 Lets face it no one feels motivated daily but if its important to you, you will schedule it into your life and develop a routine.

 Daily Rituals

I am a big believer in daily rituals, they are the backbone and I live my life by following these rituals.

They also make it a no-brainer and I don’t need to rely on willpower and motivation

Here are a few of my daily rituals:

  • Wake up between 5-6am during the week
  • Do cardio for 30-45 mins
  • Look at my daily plan every morning for 10 mins
  • Do resistance training for 30 minutes at lunchtime or arvo.
  • Eat three meals: breakfast, lunch and dinner with no snacks in between
  • Write for 15 mins every night in my Reflection & Gratitude diary

So how do you stick to your daily habits with consistency?


It’s all about scheduling in activities that are important to you and the daily order of things in your life.

“If something is important to you, schedule it in”

 I know what activities are important to me and I schedule them in a particular order that works for me.

Every day is:

  • The same order
  • Same times
  • And every time

What you can do:

Instead of focusing on weight loss as an outcome, create a plan identifying when and where these things are actually going to happen.


  • Create some time
  • Plan what activities are important to you
  • Schedule them in at a time that works for you
  • Start and follow your daily schedule
  • Master your daily routine
  • Repeat

 #5 Focus on Progress not Perfection

This all about adopting a different mindset and being ok with things taking a little longer. Perfectionism takes you down the negative lane and can keep you trapped there unless you adopt a different attitude.

 Perfection gets in the way of your progress in the following ways:

  • It slows you down, trying to be perfect is an energy drainer
  • Leads to self criticism and your inner voice pops up telling you can’t do it
  • It hinders your motivation and you start to think in an all or nothing way.

“Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind”

 Focusing on Progress is the key to long-term success because:

  • First and most of all its sustainable
  • It’s creates a positive “I can do” mindset
  • It keeps your mind open to learning and seeing opportunities
  • It is so much more doable

 What you can do:

Irena Geller

Emotional Eating Coach

  • Start by taking one step and be ok with that
  • Make slow progress each week
  • Keep a journal of your progress
  • Celebrate wins

 “Change does not take time-it takes commitment Thomas Crum

Irena Geller

Emotional Eating Coach

BSc (Biomed), Cert IV (PT), Wellness Coach (Level 3))

I coach 35+ women to put down their fork and pick up their life.  If you want to end your struggles with excess weight, stress and self-belief, using your strengths and capabilities, book a free 15-minute mini-coaching sesssion with me and I’ll show you how to transform your life.