Claire is smart and capable and yet addressing her weight feels beyond her. She feels like she was wasting her precious time and is having difficulty understanding her blocks.
Claire came to me to lose weight, but after a couple of coaching sessions it became apparent that there was an underlying issue: she doubted herself and had no faith in her ability to change, perpetually stuck in that vicious cycle.
And she was constantly sabotaging her efforts wondering , her words exactly “If I’m so capable in all other areas of my life so why can’t I lose weight?”
The piece that was missing in her strategy was her lack of belief in herself.
So, what is self-belief and what is so good about it?
Self-belief, is that magic ingredient that makes everything possible, and one that many of us may not be aware is missing.
Self-belief is that positive feeling you have inside , its believing that you are capable of achieving everything.
You feel confident and capable and this fuel empowers you to face challenges in your life.
On the other hand, self-doubt is fueled with negative thoughts and doubts and can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Do you ever catch yourself saying?
‘I can’t possibly do this; other people are much smarter than me.”
‘What will they think of me if I say that or do this “
‘I don’t deserve to be healthy and happy”
And you know what you are probably right, because you will get the life that you feel you deserve.
This quote describes it perfectly: “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, then mind can achieve”
How many opportunities have you missed because you lacked belief in yourself and doubted your abilities?
This is what it looks like:
People with a strong sense of self-belief
View challenging problems as tasks to be mastered
Develop deeper interest in the activities in which they participate
Form a stronger sense of commitment to their interests and activities
Recover quickly from setbacks and disappointments
People with a weak sense of self-belief:
Avoid challenging tasks
Believe that difficult tasks and situations are beyond their capabilities
Focus on personal failings and negative outcomes
Quickly lose confidence in personal abilities
Here are some great reasons why believing in yourself matters
Self-belief gives you the confidence & freedom to make mistakes
Self-belief lets you see opportunitieswith “fresh eyes”
Self-belief allows you to find creative solutions.
Self-belief creates a positive snowball effect in other areas of your life.
Self-belief stimulates action and invites you to be persistent
Here are 3 top ways to Build Your self-belief in Yourself and bridge the gap between the life you have and the life you want.
1.Start small and build
You can start small and build on from there. Doing something you planned to do, no matter how small will make you feel better about yourself once you achieve it.
Starting small will also eliminate overwhelm and the risk of giving up all together
Here is a tip to get your started:
- Set small daily goal/s
- Decide what you want to achieve daily and do it
- Tick things off your list
- Affirm your effort e.g.” Rather than making a long to do list, I will create a shorter one today and accomplish all the tasks”
Remember, inch by inch it’s a cinch to get things done.
2.Manage Your Thoughts and Emotions
Change your mind set by examining your thoughts and rewiring your self-talk
The voices in your head aren’t always the positive ones. These voices are your thoughts and these thoughts create feelings.
Pay attention to your thoughts.
Here is a tip to get your started:
Write down your daily thoughts about a particular situation or something you want to achieve.
1.Pick one thought that isn’t serving you
E.g. ““I’m so hopeless, I never get things done, I’m going to fail—again.”
2.Now recognize what the feeling this thought is causing.
E.g. “Sadness or disappointment”
3.Now ask yourself “How do I want to feel in/about this situation?”
E.g.: Confident and Capable”